The Deal- Transformed

Thoughts are the essence of our search for purpose. The adventures that quite possibly move us toward our center. What is the center that defines many of us? We were born with it, yet it
takes a lifetime to learn it. To know it. It is the core, the fundamental essence of our future.

These core values and beliefs can lead us to where we share new revelations, new beginnings and a new awareness that leads us closer to God.

Millennials Are Done With Voice Mail

This story is part of the New Boom series on millennials in America.

We've all heard that automated voice mail lady, telling us what to do after the beep. But fewer people than ever are leaving messages. And the millennials, they won't even listen to them — they'd much rather receive a text or Facebook message.

“I did have at one point in time like 103 unheard messages,” says 31-year-old Antonia Kidd.

The New York Times reported in June that the phone service Vonage saw a significant drop in voice mail retrievals over the past year.

Kidd's main problem with voice mail is that it's time consuming, and she's tired of listening to butt-dials and rambling messages. If someone really wants to get hold of her, there are lots of ways to do it, she says.“Wherever we're talking to them, we're hearing the same things, which is: When it comes to voice mail, they're just over it,” says Jane Buckingham, a trend analyst at Trendera.

“I guess I usually just assume that it's probably not that important if you didn't text me, and you didn't send me a message on Facebook,” Kidd says.

Many 18- to 34-year-olds feel that way. But step inside the office, and the old rules still apply. There's no escaping the beep.

“When you say, 'Hello, my name is,' smile when you say it, and also, sit up straight,” says Patricia Napier-Fitzpatrick, founder of The Etiquette School of New York.

Courtney Cranch tends bar at The Red Hen in Washington, D.C., where she estimates at least half her customers have smartphones out at mealtime.She teaches college students and young professionals how to behave in the business world, including how to leave a proper voice mail.

“The fact that we have four generations in the workplace, and they're going to be there for some time, the younger generations — the millennials, the Y generation — they're going to need to adapt,” Napier-Fitzpatrick says.

But that doesn't stop some millennials like 26-year-old Nick Sirianno from feeling that voice mail is clearly a thing of the past.

“It might evolve into something kind of special and exciting,” he says. “Like a telegram once was.”

Buckingham, the trend expert, says that millennials are just doing what works for them.

“Everyone criticizes the millennials for being the 'me' generation and being so entitled,” she says. “I don't think they're so entitled. I think they're just incredibly pragmatic. So for them if a voice mail isn't practical — which most of the time it isn't — and there's a more practical way of delivering the same information, they're gonna go for that.”


Living Way Above your Circumstances

What drives your belief system? What characteristics make up your value system? Perhaps it may take you a while to truly analyze this question. This is not a test and you will not be graded on it. It is merely food for thought in arriving at a mental diagnostic test of your belief priorities. It is not easy taking an inventory of the inner most feelings and emotions that control us and have a high priority in pursuit of a “call to action” in our life.

When we make a decision we expect that our decisions are sound, because our life experience has taught us that they are. A popular notion is “The best predictor of what someone will do in the future is the behavior that person has shown in the past”. All things considered, this is a sound hypothesis. It has been used many times and often employed when selecting a job candidate or when making an important decision.

We operate in these areas at a handicap; that is we do to have the ability to see into the future; we can only make predictions, based on hypothesis. Our ability to make decisions and expect the desired outcome is less than zero percent. That is a very low, almost non existent success rate. Yet that is how we make our decisions in life. It is without a doubt trial and error; in fact much error.

So where does that leave us? How can we insure that we can choose a direction that will be beneficial to us all? We can’t insure our success. We do not have that ability. So we search through life trying to acquire that ability. Perhaps it is some fad diet program that put us on some sure fire regime that will help us lose pounds and discover our inner self. Maybe we decide to sign up for some success seminar featuring people who have been quite successful in life. Often they have reached the pinnacle for success. We try their program and we experience some success, but it is by no means reliable or sustainable.

Most things in life our fleeting. By now you should get the gist if this excerpt; it shows that we are lost in controlling our satisfaction and for that matter; our destiny. Is it such a great idea to rely on worldly trends, fads and direction, when it in fact leads you nowhere and does nothing for you in guaranteeing happiness? A popular expression is “No one said that life would be easy”? Are how about this one: There are no guarantees in life?

There is one thing that IS guaranteed. It is often overlooked. It can put you on a career track. You may never know what the future holds, but you will have a guaranteed ticket for eternal life; not just here on earth, but for eternity. How would you like to remove all worry? I’m not taking about removing life’s problems; you will always have them, because we live in a fallen world (more to come on this in another blog).

You cannot run from problems, but you can learn to live with them and live in abundance. I call it “Living Above Your Circumstances”. Almighty God by his grace gave us his only Son, Jesus Christ who died on Calvary long time ago. He took back the keys to these earths that were stolen from us when Adam the first man disobeyed God. The only way to take back God’s gift was to give us the gift of grace by sacrificing his only Son, Our Savior, Jesus Christ, who died on Calvary for our sins. Doing that final act Jesus eliminated worry. He gave us peace to live above our circumstances on this earth. He made it possible for us to have eternal life. He gave us the deluxe package. You do not have to pay a fee to get this service. You do not sign a contract or a wavier. The service will never be revoked. There will never be an adjustment for inflation. You don’t have to worry about missing the deadline to act. It is a standing offer. All you have to do in confess your sins to Jesus and ask Him to come into your life and accept him as Your Savior.

It is a gift of Grace. A gift of love. Ask Him today. Pick up a copy of the Holy Bible and read it from cover to cover. The Holy Spirit and God's Son Jesus will come to live within you and give you the discernment that you will need to face any challenge that life puts in front of you. All you have to do is step out in Faith and believe in Jesus. Remember; “No one comes to the Father (Almighty God) except through Jesus Christ”.

Posted 19th March 2009 by Administration


Barkley’s Take On African Americans Being Held Back

Charles Barkley's comments on African American being held back by other African Americans in their community are interesting to say the least. We all know that Charles is frank in his opinions and that some are misguided and not well thought out and some or well…. on point. I think Barkley's comments are on point to a certian extent in regards to the pressures that other African Americans put on their peers to under achieve, or do not act black enough. For African American males who live in substandard neighboods, often wihout a solid family structure this is reality. However this segment that Barkley refers to is certainly not universal, but more of a segment of the African American community.

In no way is this representative of all African Americans. Trust me, I grew up for a time in communities that one would consider today as Ghetto. My Father was an African Methdist minister. He instilled values in us, that we tried to apply, but being an African American Male in this environment, there was tremendous pressure on me to fit in. The fact that you made good grades and you were somewhat a teachers pet only served to alienate you with your peers in the community. Why aren't you stealing, committing crimes like the rest of us? This was a question that was often asked. I refused to participate. So it creates the necessity to adapt a sort of tough, fearless attitude in order to fit in. Back when I grew up in the 60's and early 70's you were always defending yourself on a daily basis. Either you defended yourself or you will live a life of ridicule and torment. This is exactly why many African Americn males never reach their full potential, even though potential is definitley in them. It is tragic.

Despite this environment, I found a way to overcome and reach my potential. I enjoyed getting good grades and felt bad when I did not. Outside of the classroom I was forced to defend myself often. I made it a point to resolve that when I married and had my own family I would put my son in an environment where he could and would succeed. My son never lived in this type of environment because I made sure that he went to the best schools and that his preparation was first class. I obtained a Degree in Journalism from East Tennessee State University, started my own Community newspaper at the age of 23 and went on to secure a successful 35 year career as an advertising executive, working for some of the largest newspapers in America.

We lived in Des Moines Iowa, Battle Creek, Michigan, Rochester, New York, the Philadelphia, PA area where I worked for daily newspapers. My son graduated from McQuaid Jesuit High School in Rochester, and went on to earn his Master's degree and now works as an advertising sponsorship executive in New York City. It is all about putting your kids in an environment where they can florish and succeed and be applauded for their efforts. Be there for your kids, helping with homework, attending parent teacher conferences and making sure they have all the tools they need to succeed.

Unfortunately, this article cannot help those who are trapped in the ghetto, however you must find your way to achieve in the face of obstacles if you resolve within yourself to do all you can to make it happen. By all means never succumb to peer pressure and always strive to be all you can be.


The Deal- So You’re A Parent

All of us have references, things we can look back to that influenced our outlook, our take on life. Some times we question how our upbringing influenced us, how our parents were as parents. Our parents tried to do the best they could. A clique for the moment is all. More importantly, our future depended on how engaged, how in tuned, how aware our parents were. Or sometimes if they we there at all. After all they provide for us, put food on the table. The most important thing, right?

But somehow in the order of things we look for just a little more than that. The trouble is we become parents ourselves with short comings that hinder us in our attempt to parent. The base was empty, the glass half full, and guess who suffers………….Our Kids!